i have a child & only my family & old friends know about it. i accidentally got a girl pregnant who had sworn that she medically couldn’t get pregnant, hadn’t had a period for 9 years due to having been anorexic & 100% didn’t want children anyway so when we had a drunken accident without protection, i didn’t think much of it.

anyway, i was dropping her off to go home one day & she had a fit in my car. went to a&e & turns out she was pregnant. initially she carried on as if she didn’t want it, drinking heavily, partying, etc, while she was supposedly making appointments to terminate it but then one day she told me she had “life growing inside her” & i knew she’d changed her mind.

i did not want a child & explained my position but obviously, it wasn’t my decision & she had it. we were only together for about 3 months before i ended things as i realised she was a massive hypocrite & i genuinely didn’t like her as a person.

we live far apart & i spent a year and a half travelling regularly to see them & trying to build a relationship but it was awkward as hell & the truth is i had no bond with the child, & was deeply unhappy about the entire situation.

finally, she said some horrendous things about my dad who was dying of cancer at the time & i was paying for his medical care & i decided i didn’t have to put myself through this any longer so i left.

that was 8 years ago. i have been paying support every single month (voluntarily) but have nothing to do with them & i couldn’t be more relieved.

i hate the fact that i’ve abandoned a child as i know how awful a thing that is to do but genuinely believe it was the right thing to do for me