Our second child was special needs. Nothing catastrophic, but from the moment he was born, there were doctors and surgeons. Instead of basking in the glow of a new baby, it was work, all work, 100% work.

Our marriage never came back. In 2009 I had an old flame emailing, texting, calling and I was in an LDAP- 99.9% emotional only. Same time I discovered there was a guy, about 25, in my wife's office who was texting her at all hours. I read the texts- nothing but friendly work chatter. She got embarrassed and rejected his requests to get drinks, but I knew at that point if we both had something going on, even if it wasn't physical, this wasn't working. I had a messy breakup with my eAP, her guy got fired, I tried like hell to reignite the flame. Maybe 3 months later it was dead for good.

December 22, 2017 a woman at work comes up to me with the biggest smile, the brightest eyes, and she starts asking me questions and talking about mutual friends, and she accidentally let it slip that she checked out our mutual friends and was asking them questions about me. She was 25 years younger than me. I had thought this part of my life was over.

I'm not saying that seeing someone at work was smart, in fact it was really stupid. But that was the moment I said, this ain't ever coming back...