What would you do if you felt like your effort into a relationship isn't being reciprocated?

She was the best relationship I ever had in my life so far. It lasted 8 years. We had such a great connection. I highly suspect that she was an ENFP. She is a good person and has has values that were aligned with mine (not all of them but heh). I learned so much about myself with her and she helped me improve myself on many social aspects. That said, she was emotionally selfish. I was giving much more emotional support than she was and in the end it was draining me. I never loved another human being like that. She ended leaving me for a coworker.

It was hard. Couple of years later, our cat was sick and I ended seeing her and the inevitable happened and we saw each others again. At first we were friends with benefits, but we decided to work slowly things to something more serious and declared our relationship exclusive. She ended having sex with one of her friend.

Needless to say the door slam made quite some noise this time.

She contacted me on facebook not too long ago and she felt down. Couldn't help to listen to her and maybe give some advice. She talked to me about a guy she felt in love with (she met him on a dating site and had sex with him the first day and never heard of him again). She confessed that she had many casual sexual encounters with "assholes" she met online. Not whoreshaming here, but she clearly has zero understanding of who I am and consequently has zero authentic consideration for me.

She was out as a soulmate and now she is out as a friend. I am not looking back.

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