What do you'll think about men who are eager and willing to have open relationships /engage with poly women but are vehemently against letting thier partners /wives be open or poly

It's not just men. My girlfriend is having the hardest time maintaining a relationship with poly men because their wives keep getting insecure.

One guy she dated was married and his wife had a regular boyfriend for months. He had been online for all those months with not even one first date... Until he went out with my girlfriend and his wife made him break it off with her on the second date... But the wife also kept her boyfriend. Complete double standard.

I also just met a guy online and decided to not follow through because it seemed every message he sent included something about how his wife had this rule or that rule... I felt like I was already fielding his wife's insecurity before we even went out the first time.

On the other hand, one of my girlfriend's husbands was the one to melt down over her poly relationship with me... So, I see it go both ways.

Jealousy and envy are not gendered.

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