I was married for 4 years and one day, before my wife was headed on a 5 day trip, we got into another argument about me not feeling heard, like I’m carrying the weight, etc. At this point I had been pleading for change for months, explicitly calling out her narcissistic traits and asking her to get help. We were arguing and I told her I had one foot out the door and I need to see change. She proceeded to leave for her trip and text me later that night like nothing ever happened. I said I didn’t want to talk over text (we just got into a fight over miscommunication via text) so her response was to ignore me for the rest of her trip. We didn’t speak once. It was during that time that I realized I will never get the respect that I was looking for and I will always take a back seat if I was going to stick it out. I left a note and moved out the day she was supposed to come back. It felt like I was escaping as I drove away. It’s been tough because I will always love her, but I know it’s what needed to be done.