What is your golden rule?

I'm flattered and humbled. And you're very welcome. I don't know about wisdom, I am 34 years old and honestly I feel too young and flawed to be spoken to with such respect :) I do really appreciate it though and if you will allow me a rant I will present you with my greatest life lesson yet. Free of charge ;)

Truth is there's is wisdom in adversity, we learn from it and some of us are good in tough situations. I'm lucky to be one of those people but most of us aren't born that way. Neither was I. One or more events have to take us there and if you live to protect the people around you like I do it actually reveals a lot about you and hints at past experiences. People are like that, we experience, feel, learn and repeat with new behavioral patterns. If you pick up a pattern from someone you can probably link it to a feeling. In this case my pattern of putting my loved ones first and going all out for them is based in feeling fear. I fear losing, not being able to make a difference and not having done enough. I fear being the one left behind. Fear is a powerful motivator. I am actually willing to make the greatest sacrifice possible because I am afraid that any less would not be enough. That's weakness. Now you own me.

I'm not just talking crap here, I am trying to point out that people are open books and if you learn to pick up on some of their base feelings you can approach them accordingly. I learned this out of fear but ended up putting it to good use in the end. It'd be my greatest skill ever if I went to prison :)

I'm not kidding, play around with this and you'll be able to figure people and situations out and you'll have moments of clarity regarding your own life. Most unresolved or poorly resolved conflicts are based on people not understanding the counterpart. Knowledge really is power.

I sound like a smart ass but I know I'm not wise or special, I am loved by great people but other than that I am just living the best I can based on those values that are inherent in my last post. With flaws and everything, trying to own it.

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