I woke up and realised that he didn't care what I thought or wanted because he thought he could always just bulldoze me.

We'd been dating for less than a year, hadn't talked about marriage and lived in two different cities when he proposed.

I'm a notorious commitment-phobe and after a devastating breakup realised that maybe I was the problem, decided to make an effort & go all in next time I met someone so stupidly said yes despite not being ready.

I stated I wanted a long engagement and it was okay until a few months later when he told me he'd gotten a job in my city and was moving in with him.

We'd had no discussion about where we should live and he had never lived away from home. Again I rationalised it because we were engaged and it made sense to live together before we got married.

He whined we hadn't even thought about wedding planning - so we started looking at venues. He showed his parents our shortlist without telling me even thought we'd decided to involve our families after we knew what we wanted. His parents tried to pressure me into picking a venue close to their home town.

We started looking to buy a house, and we agreed a budget based on how much we had in savings each. He found a house over our budget that he loved, I said we'd have to think about it but he went behind my back & spoke to his parents to borrow more money for the deposit. He then made an offer to the estate agent for more money than we could afford and told me since his parents were contributing and he had more money for the deposit I didn't get a say.

It doesn't sound that bad writing it out but living with him every day was like a living nightmare... he would start fights about pointless things almost every other day.

I was just expected to fall in line and ever question his decisions. Even when he made huge life changing decisions without speaking me.