What is your opinion on the fact that it has become socially accepted that you can be a lesbian while having fictional male crushes?

I am sick of this kind of question from the lesbian community. Lesbians already receive unwanted attention from men, and that isn’t the fault of other women. Men giving women unwanted attention is ALWAYS the mans fault. Blaming sexual assault and harassment from men on women who identify as lesbians but still experience attraction to men on some level is misogynistic, and isn’t any better than saying “her skirt was too short, and she was drunk, she was basically asking for it.” Maybe instead of making a post about policing other peoples labels and invalidating members of your own community, we could have actual discourse about how sexism intersects with sexuality for wlw, and we can come together against these issues instead of picking each other apart.

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