Just fully relax the perineum area whenever you feel like you’re getting close to finishing. It’s like a reset that you can use whenever you want. It really is that simple. The tough part is having the self control to remember to do it and to follow through in the heat of the moment when it matters.

If you’re not sure what I mean, just tighten up that area as if you were bursting to pee and were trying to stop it from happening. As you do this, notice the tight feeling in the perineum area.

Then relax and very gently start pushing as if you were trying to poop. Notice that the feeling in the perineum area is now the opposite of the previously tight feeling. That’s what you’re trying to achieve, but without pushing as if you’re trying to poop, for obvious reasons.

You can practice when masturbating. When you feel yourself getting close to finishing, slowly exhale and let the perineum area fully relax and you’ll see that the need to finish just completely goes away. You can even do it while you’re in the middle of sex, so it’s not even a mood breaker or an obvious sign that you’re struggling to control yourself like it is when you pull out or whatever.

It’s easier to do when you’re on your back than when you’re in the missionary position, presumably because of how many of your other muscles are in play when you’re in that position, so you’ll need to practice. But once you’ve mastered it (which is actually pretty easy to do) you can just reset any time.

But obviously you should also be paying close attention to whether your partner is enjoying your newfound stamina, as lasting too long can be just as unenjoyable for a partner than a guy who finishes too fast.