What is your step parenting story and what are some hard things you deal with?

Let's see. I met my husband almost 3 years ago, shortly after I split from my ex-husband. I was just planning on getting my feet wet in dating world since I had never really dated (met my first husband when I was 20). Met my (now) husband early in the dating process, though, and it was unexpected but nice. I moved in after a year of dating. Got engaged last Christmas (together for 2 years at that point) and got married in May. I'm 30 (31 in a few months) and he just turned 40. He was married to BM for 5 years and they divorced 8 years ago. SS is 10 and we have him full-time. He goes to his mom's house every other weekend, for the summer (when we get every other weekend), and we share vs split holidays.

So I'm basically a full-time stepmom. It was definitely an adjustment because I have no children of my own (we are trying to get pregnant) and only have experience with kids younger than SS. DH does 99% of the parenting in our house, so my role is more of a supporting role. This is perfect because it keeps me from getting burnt out or overwhelmed. I put SS on the bus every morning so that DH can get to work early and get off work early enough to meet SS when he gets off the bus. But that takes up all of 10 minutes of my morning since SS eats breakfast at school.

The only hard thing I deal with is finding time alone with my husband since we have SS10 full-time. It's been hard adjusting schedules to make it work but we've done it. I would love to have more alone time during the week than we do, but I'm content knowing that every other weekend it will just the be two of us. I know that will change once we have a child of our own, so I'm enjoying it while I can.

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