What's the best plan for a guy who looks 30 but is 40?

I've never met a 49-year-old that looks 30. It would be more appropriate/realistic to say that you could pass for late 30s. It is best if you just list your real age and don't mention anything about looking 2 decades younger.

Do you really think you can camouflage in a group of 28 to 32-year-olds? Do you even know what 30-year-olds look like? They don't look like well-groomed 50-year-olds with good skin/hair for their age. There is even a difference between 30 and 39, so I have no idea why you think you can pass for 30 when you're nearly 2 decades older than that.

I'm almost 34 and regularly get mistaken for being in my mid-20s, but I don't go around saying that I look 10 years younger because not everyone will agree. And also because it is just unnecessary. You have to realize that friends and family are trying to flatter you.

You need to work on your self-awareness and self-presentation. A woman in her early 30s is not going to be impressed that you're 49 but think you look 30. It sounds dumb, cringey, and like the person is totally lacking in self-awareness.

It is better to list your actual age and match with a younger woman who is into older men. But be aware that women who are into men 10, 15, 20+ years older generally are into older men for a reason-- they believe they are more mature, established, are financially secure or successful, etc.

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