What's the biggest double standard in society?

Don't ever hold it in, don't be afraid to be emotional or vulnerable. It doesn't take away from your masculinity. People who attribute men being vulnerable or open as female, as if that's condescending, sicken me. I'm disgusted that people try to define masculinity by being utterly unavailable to themselves or the people around them for the sake of this front. Communication is essential for everyone to be healthy. No one person can handle all their burdens alone. Men who try to reinforce this in other men seem really out of touch and antiquated. Women who reinforce this are just as bad. You can't have a romantic/emotional/intimate relationship with someone while demanding this out of them? He's not "not a man" for knowing his limits or being down? Or liking certain things? It's wild to me that a woman would even consider this and reinforce their own gender as weaker?

I find the men I've dated who bought into this were cold and our relationships didn't last for that reason. Currently married to a man who's masculinity isn't threatened by his emotional needs/mental health or perception and I feel like it strengthens our relationship to be open about our feelings and mental health. When he's down, I look out for him. When I am, he's there for me. Work through the problems, don't ignore them? It's an unfair standard to impose on men and is a huge reason for suicide.

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