What's a dating norm that's recently come about that you don't like?

From the article from buzzfeed mentioned in a closeby comment :

The Cool Girl never nags, or “just wants one” of your chili fries, because she orders a giant order for herself. She’s an ideal that matches the times — a mix of feminism and passivity, of confidence and femininity. She knows what she wants, and what she wants is to hang out with the guys.

For a guy this reads as, a woman who acts like a bro, and not as a child.

“Men always say that as the defining compliment, don’t they? She’s a cool girl. Being the Cool Girl means I am a hot, brilliant, funny woman who adores football, poker, dirty jokes, and burping, who plays video games, drinks cheap beer, loves threesomes and anal sex, and jams hot dogs and hamburgers into her mouth like she’s hosting the world’s biggest culinary gang bang while somehow maintaining a size 2, because Cool Girls are above all hot. Hot and understanding. Cool Girls never get angry; they only smile in a chagrined, loving manner and let their men do whatever they want. Go ahead, shit on me, I don’t mind, I’m the Cool Girl.”

I'm basing my cool girl on the cool girl described here minus the sexual act, and the beauty standards. I don't even know what size 2 means.

But this entire description of the cool girl by buzzfeed, reads like a bro, whom i would love to hang out with. Which is exactly what i expect from my partners.

Blaming feminism is ridiculous.

No it isn't. Feminism is all about putting women on the same foot as men, equalizing them. I will do my part, without complaining (hell, i even like most of these things), but this comes at the cost that i don't need a woman. So at the same time feminism learned women that they don't need a man, they also learned men to take care of themselves.

Me not needing a woman that does stuff for me means that i'm way more picky about the woman and her behavior. Meaning i kind of demand a bro that i can build a life with, and not someone who makes me want to stay longer at work, because i don't want to go home yet (as seen by plenty of older colleagues and clients that even ask for meetings later so they have an excuse to not have to go home yet).

/r/AskWomen Thread Parent