What's the deal with no male pics in online profiles?

I only responded because of how you all bash the type of relationship I and ALOT of other couples have. Let me be clear by saying that if couples are trying to deceive you by not showing you exactly what you're getting, that is wrong. Yes, I am the guy most of you speak of. I have a hot ass wife but I am overweight. IN our public photos I'm either dressed up or are have shots of my face. However, i keep my nude photos in our private album. When we get contacted by serious couples I always open our private photos so they know, EXACTLY what they are getting BEFORE we continue. I think the vast majority of people interpret a non-response as a negative reply. So when that happens, we close our pictures and move along. That's it. I offer the same advice to you like the couples who are not interested in us. You are NOT an asshole. It's ok to "like what you like". I say accept that there are a ALOT of couples like this and move on.

Anyway, this is the part of the lifestyle that annoys me. The hypocrisy. A lot of you seem to have a problem when the husband is running the show if he's unattractive and the wife is hot. But what if there's an overweight/unattractive wife who has a hot husband and wants to show him off? Or even better, the norm, above average wife and mediocre husband (which is what I see most of) where the wife runs the show. That should be "plutonium" too. As, a matter of fact, i am always surprised when i get a response from the male half of a couple. So by default, it seems like the women generally run the show. I guess this is ok but i don't complain. Also, I'd bet money no one would have the guts to post a thread about how many unfit/unattractive women there are in the lifestyle. as you can probably tell, I fit this profile you are complaining about. Water meets its own level, so the main types of couples we hook up with are couples like ourselves or couples who may be attractive but they care more about personality and having fun. My wife has never mentioned to me that she feels like she's taking one for the team. Even though she wouldn't date these guys if she was single, she still has a good time with them. Whats the problem with that?

You all being frustrated there arent more fit/in shape husbands out there is like me complaining there aren't more fit/in shape/sexy wives who aren't shallow. We don't complain but we get it. Everyone likes to fuck hot people. Yea, I am the bread winner in my relationship and I'm overweight. So? Do we not have a place in the lifestyle? Does that mean we shouldnt swing because I'm a successful, handsome, overweight guy who has a smoking hot wife? I don't use her as "bait". I hardly think other husbands are making their wives do anything they don't want to do.

If you look at our general population, the majority of people don't take care of themselves. That spills over into our lifestyle. Unfortunately, swinging is not reserved for the fit and attractive only. Also, with women not being attracted to the vast majority of men anyway, you are going to constantly run into this problem where there are unfit husbands and hot wives.

Some women prioritize resources and status over good looks and vice versa. That doesn't make either one of these women wrong. It's just what they like. All in all, i'm not even saying you or anyone else here is wrong for what they like but please be fair about this. If this was someone complaining about many how unfit/unattractive women there are in the lifestyle, there would be a shit storm. I could not even fathom seeing "ladies, have some self respect and hit the gym!" My macbook would probably explode.

Before anyone decides to say "why don't you stop swinging and focus on getting fit?" Personally, we only play about 1-2 times a year, so if we stopped swinging to focus on becoming fit, we'd get no results. We are too busy with life most of the time. I'm also not bashing the fit swingers here. I have a deep understanding about physical attractiveness and its benefits. All I'm saying is be fair folks. Don't bash me and other couples. Don't like what you see? Check the "no" box and move on to the next question.

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