I dated a single mom with a child for 2 years or so. She lived with her mom since the bio dad was not in the picture so I was essentially in a relationship with her, her mom and her son. Looking back on the relationship now since I’m out of it they were both kind of feminists I believe now. And it honestly just felt like me trying to parent as organically as I thought I would be if I was an actual parent it was always just wrong. You do not have any say in the disciplinary process at all so don’t even try and offer up some advice. Maybe my situation is isolated but just be prepared to have all the responsibilities of being a parent but not having any say in the day to day. Especially if the bio dad is in the picture that plays a role too mine wasn’t but I’m sure it can be a hit or miss on that aspect of it too. But as other people have said when it’s over between you two you lose that little kid all together and the time and connections and just left with the memories. Giving that kid even that much time with a father figure / friend is worth it though. It’s a huge investment to put on yourself but at the end of the day you need to be prepared for that if it ever happens. I would definitely do things different next time if I was ever in that situation like waiting a little while longer before meeting the kid I felt like it was too soon. You need to have a good strong connection with your gf or bf and tell them that you don’t want to meet them for maybe like 6 months or a year of dating if possible.