We had a fight the other day. We have had many arguments over the course of our marriage and we’ve made up each time. We feel bad and say we aren’t going to fight again, and we’ll be work on things.

This time, she said that she’d mess with my family if we visited again.

I’ll take it on my shoulders, but she doesn’t get to attack my family, or threaten to mess with them. That’s the moment that I knew I was done. Even though I’ve been not happy for a long time, that was too much.

Lay shit on me, but no one has the right to threaten my family.

The thing is, I’m not even particularly close to my family, never have been. I haven’t seen my parents in 5 years, and haven’t been home in 11 years. But that is between me and my family.

I’ve been a little cold to her as I think about the next steps, and she’s commented on it a couple times. We had a small argument this morning where I pretty much said I was done kowtowing to her. So it’s not over yet, but I think this is the start of it. And I’m scared.