Are people in the real world pigeonholed? I don’t think personally, in my opinion, out with Reddit and porn that people tend to fall into their “roles” based on those characteristics. I’ve not always been in my current relationship and even though I am taller than my bf I don’t see that ever in my experience, coming into it. When having the choice, being vers I didn’t look for people with a smaller dick, that were smaller than me or particular fitness levels. I looked for someone saying there were a bottom and I was attracted to. I wouldn’t have found my current bf if I’d experienced as you described. I think personally that people put too much thought and time into trying to fit a role. Positive aspects should be just that, not by juxtaposing the “social constructs” and having to find the silver lining.