Will probably delete this later but:

Household income is around $500k, maybe around $300k 2 years ago, when we bought the apartment. Apartment was $450k, cabin was $390k - which we bought at the height of the market probably last year, and yeah, I do feel like we may have overpaid for it.

According to Zillow, the apartment is worth $520k, but that feels wrong to me. Zillow says the cabin is about $420k. Realtor says it's about $400k. Again, not sure any of it is accurate.

I will say that it's much more expensive maintaining a whole house and many acres instead of an apartment, in retrospect this is obvious, but I was pretty unprepared for it.