Most of the time it's over drinks. When I day dream about it, it's over alcohol in a bar. There is music but it's pretty quiet in terms of noise despite there being a decent amount of people. I imagined a game where you can ask any question and if the other person does not want to answer they have to take a drink.

If the person doesn't drink alcohol then it's over coffee, preferably outside, or in a brightly lit but cozy place with a bit of sun. It's not like, quick fire questions or an interrogation. The questions are supposed to lead to learning something about them or giving them room to tell a story.

I think questions are limitless... I couldn't narrow it down to a specific set. It's different every time and for every person. But usually it's not things like "do you like being rich?" or "are you happy with your life?". It's more things like "what's your favorite song to sing when you're alone?", "what was the last experience you had that made you feel uncomfortable but was actually awesome?" or "do you make your bed in the morning?".

I like the idea of getting to know someone in that way and asking them things that they don't really ever get asked in common situations like "how's your day going?" or "has work been busy?". I feel privileged when someone shares something with me that is like... deeper or confidential, or something that could make them feel vulnerable.

Mostly though these weird little day dreams where I'm asking other people questions but answering them myself has helped me figure a lot out about who I am, what I like and what I value. Questions that people don't ask me, so I never think of an answer to. It's a nice way to spend my time and I usually come out of the daydream feeling a bit better about everything in general.