When they ask you PP to take a photo of them with your baby.

At the end of 2019, about a week and a half before I gave birth, my husband’s aunt and uncle invited us over to their house. His grandma had just moved to town and was living with them so we wanted to see her. Well, they neglected to tell us that the uncle was sick with “a little cold” until after we arrived. Mind you, this uncle typically ignored my presence because I didn’t greet him while passing through the room many years ago (I didn’t want to disturb him while he watched tv). Yes, a stupid reason to be offended, but I digress. Anyway, it wasn’t a little cold. He hacked up a lung the whole time we were there, didn’t join in on the conversation at all. He proceeded to sit in the room with us and watch tv for the 45 mins we were there. I felt so uncomfortable and tried to keep my distance from him by sitting clear across the room. He ended up getting me and the grandmother sick with the flu. I was vaccinated but caught it despite that fact and spent several hours in the ER. I am thankful I was vaccinated because I couldn’t imagine being in more pain than I was. I wouldn’t wish that feeling on anyone. Even when the grandma ended up in the hospital, as well, and the uncle tested positive for flu a few days before me, they didn’t even reach out to let us know. After giving birth, Infection Control tried to take my baby away to quarantine (with an undetermined timeline) but I had been fever free for several days and the nurses stood by me ensuring that didn’t happen. I was so scared, I didn’t want my baby away from me. Once I was home, my in-laws, who were staying with the Aunt and Uncle, treated me horribly denying they got be sick. They tried to bring several relatives, including the ones who gave me the flu that put me in an extremely dangerous situation, over to our small apartment. I told them no, anticipating that they’d pull something like that, and they had the audacity to take offense. I had a horrible lingering cough from the flu and let me tell you, the pain I felt “down there” with every cough was so bad! I also had horrible nipple blisters from breastfeeding as a first time mom and coughing while my baby latched on so strong was awful. I would try to hold coughs in because I also didn’t want to cough on my baby. And on top of that my in-laws acted like they were entitled to full access to my baby, got angry when I asked them to wash hands and would overstay their welcome. They did more but that’s the gist. Oh also, I had gestational diabetes as well, so while I was sick I couldn’t have anything like soup or juice to feel better. It still all makes me very angry. I did set better boundaries with my in-laws and things have improved a bit with them. But as for the Aunt and Uncle I will never speak to them again, in my eyes what they did was just awful and that was the last straw on in a laundry list of their poor behavior over the years.

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