When did you realize being alone was the way to go?

Hmm I realised strongly at 24-25 that my life was going in a terrible direction. I felt like the world had it in for me and I just did not want to participate.

So much was causing me unhappiness. My weight was out of control again and I was unemployed. My girlfriend just dumped me, kicked me out and purposely made me aware that she fucked someone else a day after dumping me. I was pretty angry, depressed and broken.

The heaviness of everything feeling so bad had a rubber band effect into the opposite direction.

Eventually, I started to truly understand that I can solve a lot of the problems in my life - I just need to be patient and keep working on it.

My mind became heavily focused on saving, investing, learning, lifting, entrepreneurship and improving my people skills etc. All that good stuff.

Quite frankly, this has taken a ton effort and I am really happy with how much I have managed to do in 3 years. I have so many opportunities in front of me all of sudden and it's exciting.

The process is still ongoing though... I don't want to risk falling in love and letting these opportunities disappear.

My main goal is to be a millionaire and have no mortgage at 40. I am currently on track to achieve this. I can't imagine how great life would be if I can do this. I'd still be relatively young, and that's when I would want to seriously date and start a family.

Love would risk reaching this objective at the moment. Whether that's for better or for worse, well that's subject to your own opinion.

Some would argue ignoring love for this goal is unhealthy but here is another important factor. Being single is pretty damn fun lifestyle. I work a lot but I still have plenty of spare time to do all of the amazing things that I find delightful to do.

However, I do believe in true love. I am not immune to it. If I come across someone on my journey who truly feels like the one, then hey, who knows? Love is the most incredible feeling on this Earth and I accept that, but I do not wish to force it to happen in any way.

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