When did your feeling about "Something is very wrong here." turned out to be true?

Started dating a seemingly charming and well-mannered, athletic guy and we even moved in together. He then started trying to brainwash me into being a doormat and tried to control everything I did also tried using me to get him things(technology, clothes etc).

A long-term male friend(more like a brother) wished me a merry christmas and he claimed I obv must be cheating with him, but he will love me regardless. Tried to provoke jealousy out of me by sending me screenshots of girls trying to chat him up. He tried his best to make me insecure with comments about my appearance or personality etc, but I was just in awe and said we can break up if he feels that way about me. He tried to get my friends to support his attempts to brainwash me.

I tried to leave multiple times but him crying on his knees begging me to stay, saying he’s so crazy because I’m the best thing ever in his life and he just doesn’t want to lose me, stopped me. He then stalked me when I went out with friends- he literally sent me a picture of me from the outside of an event. I told him he was acting ridiculous and the “something is very wrong” feeling didnt go away. We had a fight about it the same evening and he said he will kill me and himself if I leave. I couldn’t sleep the whole night because of extreme anxiety. Following morning he said he won’t go to work if I won’t say I love him. So I lied and said I did just to get him to leave. He left, I packed up all my things and moved out in less than 2hrs.

He continued to stalk me, threatened to kill me and to hurt my family. I contacted his family multiple times and asked them to get him treatment or help, they then responded that they are not surprised by his behaviour but thought a good girl will change him(!!!???) and figured it wasn’t necessary to let me know he’s an absolute psychopath who also beat up his ex gf and that he must just really love me to continue to harass me months after I left him. I feel like I got extremly lucky and that if I hadn’t left that morning I’d be living(if living at all) in not only the emotional terror but it would have escalated to physical violence.

tl;dr dated a certified psycho, survived.

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