When does it end?

Well I've heard of couples working something like that out, but it takes years to rebuild trust and paitience on the part of the cheater because the person who was cheated on will doubt you and question you for years which can be very tolling and cause more fights.

At this point you've got nothing to lose so maybe you can talk to her, be open and honest about why you did what you did and see if there is any hope for a another chance. But for fucks sake don't do it if you're going to put her through the same thing again. Don't destroy her twice because you want her back. I mean this with respect: don't be selfish after you already destroyed trust, self esteem, and her reality. You think you're miserable? Think about what she's going through. If it's a hard no from her then your only choice is to move on and not make those mistakes again. I'm sure that's not the only reason though because if you were insecure I'm sure there were lots of other things going on to undermine the relationship. She may not be willing to go through it again unless you've taken the time to make a lot of progress which doesn't happen overnight. I wish you luck. I think both of you are in a lot of pain and that sucks.

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