When going NC, do you let the NParent know why?

No, do not give in. First time I went nc I announced it, thinking at the time that deep down they really loved me and would eventually apologize for the horrific things they said about me and my kids. 6 months went by and not a word. Then the pandemic happened and I was genuinely worried about them getting sick and us never speaking again so I broke nc and called. My mom acted as if nothing occurred and that we didn’t just go through six months of silence. Not wanting to dig up the past I decided to use the grey rock method that way I could escape from feeling guilty while trying to have healthy boundaries. 8 months went by and slowly the digs started back up again, then the triangulation with my younger brother and again with insults to my kids, finally I flat out confronted her behavior to which she acted all innocent and clueless (classic gaslighting) and made it clear I wasn’t falling for it anymore, that I knew she was lying and she was trying to gaslight me. And that was it. That ended the conversation and we’ve not spoke since. But this time I have more clarity on my end. And I know I will never engage contact again. It was like I needed that last bit to prove to myself I wasn’t wrong. But in the end I should have just stayed gone and saved myself further heartbreak and frustration. My thoughts. If you suspect your parents are narcissists, then they are. Not probably. They are. They will never change or see the error of their ways. This is who they are. Get out while you can, so you can heal and move forward with your life.

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