My question was meant to be a general question rather than a critique of the photos I have taken.
It can't really be asked generally.
If you would like to see the photo I took that led to me deciding to ask, it is this one.
It's been tagged with everything except anything a photographer would be interested in.
To answer your original question though, why can't I want both. Is it really wrong of a person to have that deep desire for someone to compliment a photo you are proud of?
You can want both, but if you want to improve at photography, you should separate the two because they aren't related.
Maybe I'm just weird, but reading that something I created moved a person enough that they wanted to put their thoughts into words makes me want to do better. A lot more than just getting nothing at all.
Then we're full circle to some extent. If you look at all the best photographers, musicians, formula 1 drivers, singers or whatever it was, do you think they wanted to be great for them, because they had an insatiable desire to improve or because of their fanbase? Most fan bases appeared after they became excellent.
However, I must repeat that my question isn't a matter of getting feedback from what I present to the public, but that of what the model presents to her public.
A model presents herself, as they have usually been doing for a while. They've been called pretty for a while and it's usually rude if someone says "the photographer did a good job", it's like "ohh you look like shit but hey dude he or she brought the best out of you".
I don't care about the 3 F's. Your face, your friends, or your food. I also don't care about your business/music.
This just sounds negative. People see negativity even if they don't usually comment on it.
I'm also really confused, because you made it sound like you took the photograph and she posted it on her instagram, but it says...
My lovely coworker allowed me to photograph her.
In either case, you just seem too emotional about the issue. It's not really a photography related problem, but an esteem problem.