I agree with you 100%. Part of me wants to be understanding and accept his reality, the other part thinks that yeah, his reasoning is a dumb excuse.

I think he’s so in his head about it and is so scared of being hurt and going through heartbreak that he can’t see that it’s a part of building relationships. I hate to think of him in a negative light, because he really is wonderful, but I think his thought process is very naive.

The whole “ask yourself if you’d be able to see him date someone else” concept has already crossed my mind, as we have a ton of mutual friends that are, unfortunately, more his friends than they are mine (they just happen to be my coworkers — just my luck).

I think eventually I could be friends with him but I’m definitely going to separate myself for a bit and let myself get over him and build up my confidence again before trying to be his friend.