When you’re not one of the “in group” moms and your kid suffers

From her comment that the birthday girl wanted to invite her, it sounds like her experience has been better than yours and that she's handling it pretty well. As long as it's a safe environment and she's not being taught things you specifically disagree with, following her lead and letting her be the one to decide if she's comfortable there or not might be a good way to help her learn that she has power in friendships, too. Check with her a lot about what's going on at the girl level, and how she feels about it. It gives you the opportunity to help her identify if these are actually good friends or not, and help her think of options when their are problems that are healthy- including walking away, if it comes to that.

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