When to sacrifice things that weakens your future date-ability/Need help fully surrendering/Ethical Dilemma

Okay...

Let me tell you this. You telling your man to cut off a woman who has the hots for him is reasonable. I don't care if he claims his penis would never get erected for her or she never even crossed his mind. It's reasonable. Could you perhaps also be willing to attend parties where she may be at so he doesn't have to cut off his other friends? Yes. But recognizing that someone in the crowd would love to plank on him is not a hamster move on your part.

I'd also like to say that even though it may be unreasonable, I feel like how the situation makes him feel is more important than whether or not objectively this is unreasonable.

Okay well first off I respect whatever choices you make for your relationship.

I do want to caution you though about not standing up for yourself when someone is being petty. What reads is not your man wanting to lead or "step up." It's him wanting to control you, your social life, and the things you may want to participate in without good reason. You know your man way better than I do (in fact, I don't know him at all!), so keep it an eye out on if there is something else he also ends up having a problem with. You may be setting a precedent.

I mean... Right now you are willing to burn bridges with older people who are probably well connected in different professional fields and in the sport you enjoy, for a dude who is offering you what at this very moment? <--- ultimately that's the problem with dating... What should one sacrifice before an engagement and a legal contract?

Where is the man leading you? What does he have for you to submit to? What does he do for you?

You know bridges are going to be burned. This is why I believe the issue is boiling over.

You are either going to choose him because he offers you something better. Or choose them because they offer you something better. You're not a horrible person over the choice you make.

This may be your Captain. Or this may not be. You have to make that decision.

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