When is it time to forgive someone?

I should probably specify the bad things he’s done aren’t directly involving me besides making me a sad kid. I don’t want to get political, so I will be brief, but for example, he was part of the group Blackwater (I think they changed the name), which you may recognize from a scandal ten or so years ago, and prides himself in things they did like the scandal (although I don’t think he’s directly involved in the scandals as he didn’t go through the court process). Or, before I was born, convinced my older brother from his ex wife the world ended and took him to live in the woods for a couple months. Things like that, and pure manipulation and lies on the other end of things.

I kind of hate myself every time I feel bad that he’s not in my life, because I kind of have to stop and ask myself why I want someone like him to be there. I’m going to try to listen to your words, and the other person’s. Thank you. I hope you’re well now in your situation.

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