I know where you’re going with this and I don’t think she has borderline personality disorder. She may have fear of abandonment, but she actually hasn’t been jealous of my interactions with my family. In fact I kind of have a bad relationship with my family and if anything I think she’s been insensitive towards it by telling me I should be closer while ignoring the issues that have happened in the past. She is kind of black and white in her thinking, but not entirely. More polarized than entirely black and white. Not sure about the third one, she does have some road rage and also expresses her anger towards me, but not really in any consistent pattern. The fourth I think may be pretty true as I think you could also describe this as how she acts with her family, where one second she’s saying she loves her mom and the next she’s flipping out at her, and yes one second we’re fine and the next she’s upset with me over, from my POV, literally nothing. Like not like I did something I see as not an issue, like literally nothing has happened in the time span it’s been to change her mood towards me.

Some of these things are definitely true, but not all of them. Mostly just the fourth.