Which Youtubers did you unsubscribe from and why?

Laci Green.

Before I say anything else I want to say I love what she's doing when it comes to physical sexual health and communication there (seriously, more people need to talk about this stuff), but I think she's too extreme in some things. Like when it comes to her views on cultural appropriation and the liberal use of the word "trigger" and "problematic."

I also have a huge personal issue with "safe spaces" like the ones she supports.

My local LGBT center wants do do this. They want to ban heterosexuals from certain areas to give lgbt safe spaces from them. Flip that coin for a second. Do you think it would be okay to ban homosexuals anywhere? Or do we fight that when we see it?

I think fighting discrimination with discrimination is so asinine my head might cave in. The youth group I spent a decade volunteering in now would not allow "my kind" in it's ranks. I mean... That just seems so counter productive. The kids I helped find a home and people to talk to won't have me there anymore because the genitals of my partner compared to mine.

Taboo jokes? Only if you're making fun of the rich or somehow more dominant part of society, right Laci?

She has been directly quoted saying that literally everyone and everything is problematic. So...

Enough is enough. There has to be a line, or the extreme behaviors lose their potency compared to the slights. If everything is a problem then nothing is a problem.

Rather than saying people need safe spaces for their precious feelings, maybe we should be teaching people the difference between offensiveness and actual discrimination/injustices. A rape joke is different than rape, and if you think one thing leads to another/encourages another I'd like to see your kitchen, because knives lead to stabbing and I want to know if you support violence.

Learn that the humor in jokes often comes from the shock effect it induces, we're laughing because we know it's not okay. Because it's wrong. She does go back and forth here, but she plays moral police and basically says it's only okay to be funny if you're shitting on the "oppressor" and that nobody should be kicked when they're down. I say fuck that, and why are we saying that people that went through tragedy can't find dark humor in it? We are laughing because we understand something is taboo, not because we think it is acceptable and mundane (generalization here, some people really are scary fucked up, but that's a very small group). Surprise is a funny feeling, and being uncomfortable can be really funny.

Toughen up and learn the difference between a shock joke and actually literally encouraging rape or violence. Watch a comedy routine and tell me that there isn't something thrown in that wouldn't make someone uncomfortable.

Taboo jokes also open communication. I learned my best pedophile jokes in group therapy as a sexual abuse victim. My best rape jokes from fellow rape victims. Laughing at it takes away the power it can have over you. Saying you can't touch a joke means it's too powerful in my eyes. It says you are always going to be a fucking victim, and we can never ever treat you as anything else.

I just think she does a disservice to rape and abuse survivors unintentionally with a lot of the sweeping generalizations she makes/moral policing she does. Saying that a rape joke dehumanizes someone? Give me a god damn break. Rape dehumanizes someone. Sometimes a joke funny because you know it's wrong.

Maybe I'm an awful person for these thoughts. I don't see myself as a weak defenseless victim, so stop shaming people for treating me like I can take a damn joke.

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