I am not gay myself but my brother is and we are both married to someone of a different race.

I already knew well before my brother came out that he was gay. So did the rest of our immediate family with the exception of our mother. She threw a fit and refused to acknowledge him as her son. However she had already disowned me and my parents were already divorced so we weren't exactly surprised by it, but it still hurt.

My brother was very unhappy trying to keep the family happy instead of being true to himself and it sent him into a spiral of self sabotage. Once he finally accepted himself for who he is and told everyone he was a completely different person. Some of the extended family had nasty remarks to say about it but they were put in their place by the people who love my brother for who he is and not who they want him to be. If they chose to walk away then that was their problem. You cannot control the way people feel about it, only they can.

As for racial issues this was even bigger than my brothers sexuality. My mothers side of the family blew a gasket when they met my husband and my brothers husband ( we started dating our spouses around the same time). Again you cannot control the way people feel. However you can choose if you will allow that type of behavior toward you and your partner. My husband is amazing and so is my brother in law. If they refuse to see that then they do not deserve to be a part of our lives or the lives of our future children. I will not put up with anyone disrespecting my husband just because of his skin color in my presence. Fuck em