I never met Charisma so don't know about her. I did know Alyson was lovely (and her being so well-loved by the crew infuriated Sarah who expected to be the one everyone was honored to be around). Amber Benson was nice. Everyone else was really cool that I met.

What's funny is I've told this story on the IMDb message boards (probably on Sarah's boards when people were asking whether her bad reputation was accurate) and everyone said "No, she was probably having a bad day" or "No, she did something with Habitat for Humanity so she's nice" (yeah, she brought a damn camera crew along with her and her publicist dreamed the stunt up) or "No, she doesn't seem snooty in interviews" (which goes back to what I was saying is she can be lovely if she thinks you're worthy... David Letterman, she thought was worthy... almost everyone else, no.) I also mentioned it on YouTube videos where she came up in conversation and they would say the same thing. It's so weird being told "She was probably just having a bad day" like I'd only met her once or that I had a singular bad experience with her and thus decided she was awful. People who work in film/TV know the difference between people being stressed, being moody temporarily, and their overall persona. I actually recently explained this to someone who didn't believe Christina Aguielra could have had a bad attitude after hearing a celebrity say he worked with her recently and she was nice... I brought up Sarah and Lea and Christina and said it's not just one moment... if you ask anyone who's worked with them what they're like, they all say "She's awful." Because it's how they're wired (it's an insecure thing young female celebs in their early 20s do because they become narcissists achieving success that early.) They typically grow out of it so it's just the truth. Your story corroborates it. But it's a relief for once to hear someone who said "Yeah, that checks out" and not "No, that can't possibly be true." The other thing people say to defend Sarah is "She's probably such a hard worker, it scares people she takes her job more seriously than everyone else." Uh, okay... I literally watched her film many episodes of that show and saw how uncomfortable everyone was on set, like afraid to say the wrong thing. I remember one incident, she was waiting inside a building to film a scene and the director and a handful of other people were like "Okay, so when Buffy falls backwards, we will dolly in and then..." and Sarah bursts through the doors, having heard on a monitor I guess, and goes "You don't fall BACKWARDS." (She waves her hands in a circle, like she's falling backwards, then reverses directions and leans forward as she does it) "You fall FORWARDS." Then she goes back into the building and they all continue on like she never even stopped by. Like, she wasn't even right but she had to come and correct everyone else because she knew so much more than everyone about everything. When she walked to set that day, she had high heels on and the director offered her his arm and she's like "Yeah, I know how to walk in high heels, I've been doing it since I was eight" or whatever age. Man, she was a piece of work. Everyone witnessing it said "As soon as Buffy ends, she's never going to work again with her reputation." It happened. Cut to years later, the Internet saying "Why did Sarah Michelle Gellar disappear?" And they quote her response, "I decided to take a break and be a mom." For 20 years? I knew another actress who stopped getting work when she became an adult even though she got a lot of work as a teen and she told me she stopped getting offers as she grew older (her archetype worked for characters but she wasn't actually an ACTRESS who could bend herself). But when she promoted the first gig she got in years, she said "The only reason I stopped doing films is I turned down all my offers because they weren't what I wanted to do." Actors are always going to lie about why they stopped getting work. Their publicists insist on it, just like in job interviews, you never are supposed to tell that you were fired or all your shortcomings. It ruins the illusion that you're a valuable person.