I befriended someone who lived in my building, she said she was going through domestic abuse so another neighbor helped her escape to a domestic violence shelter. The woman in question had zero clue how to survive the outside world so I helped where I could taught her how to navigate the city, encouraged her to get a job as a security guard, overall just supported her throughout the 3 year ordeal. Everyone else including the neighbor who helped her escape stopped associating with her like completely cut her off because well at times it felt like she exaggerated her domestic violence claims and also often times had a sense of entitlement. I was literally the only person who continued being her friend, she'd call me up almost every day to meet up and do something, often times asking how to fill out paperwork or to express how down she was.
She got a job as a security guard and just recently moved into a nice place, an incident came up in my life that severely triggered my ptsd to the point where I had to call off work for a few days. I messaged her letting her know that I was going through a difficult time she replied saying she would call me but didn't "I've been so busy."
A room opened up to where she moved to, we'd both expressed that our neighborhoods had become too violent and crime ridden so I asked her to put a word in for me to hopefully move into the available room, she made very little effort to talk to the landlady and to help me get out of my stressful neighborhood. She'd text me that she was playing cards with her new roommates and well suddenly she wasn't calling me multiple times a week to hang out, matter of fact she leaves me on 'read' now when I reach out to her to do something ie the upcoming three day weekend. Normally she would have been contacting me nin stop to make weekend plans.
Oh and the domestic violence she'd constantly talk about? She's reached out to the individuals she'd claimed had been abusing her way back then, whom she claimed in multiple occasions that they made her fear for her life and is friends with them again and us in regular contact with them. That was my big turning point with her was as someone whos life has literally been threatened on a few occasions, I'd never be seen anywhere talking to or befriending those who made me feel like my life was at risk.
Im pissed because I feel used by her. She's reached out to me in moments of panic ,thought she was going to be fired from her job, to borrow money and to ask if I'd pick up some paperwork for her near where I live because the location is more convenient for me to get the paperwork than it is for her.
Im just pissed and tired of being used.