My sweet (so I thought) 59 year old Aunt who lived 2 hours drive away called and offered to come help my wife for a "few days" after our daughter was born since all new mothers need help. At the time I was thinking - some help would be good since I have to get back to work after several days off for the birth and my wife thought it would also be good to not be alone that 1st week as well with an experienced mother.
Well my aunt shows up with two of her 10 and 14 year old grandkids in tow that she was also baby sitting - bad 1st start. She says "it happened at the last second that she had to watch them for the next week and she didn't want to not be there for my wife". So now the house is overpacked and we only had 1 guest bed so the two kids are sleeping in sleeping bags in the middle of the family room. Basically they would sleep in until noon - wake up and ask what's to eat and my Aunt would sit there with them and watch TV until I got home from work and never lifted a finger to help the two grandkids or my wife. As soon as I got home from work my Aunt would ask "where was I taking the 3 of them for dinner and entertainment since they had "helped" my wife all day".
Day 3 my wife says they need to go because they asked her to do their laundry - she says to me "they are not helping her at all with anything and just freeloading - and being rude/ignoring any request to help with anything". My wife was trying to feed and take care of the baby and - all 3 of them they kept asking her to prepare food and clean up after them for brunch and afternoon snacks.
At this point I say it is not working out like I expected and we do not need my Aunts "help" and that my wife needs time to be alone with the baby (trying to be polite). However, it takes me 2 more days of telling them they need to leave with each time getting progressively more forceful to get them to go....because my Aunt refused to go and said "she had planned to be there for 2 weeks!!!!!" Last straw was Friday night with them demanding I take them out for dinner again and I gave them a loaf of bread and a jar of peanut butter and said figure it out and my aunt got all Sassy that I was not treating her respectfully.
I woke them up that Saturday morning at 7am and said "you are all leaving by 10am or I am going to throw you in the street". My aunt got all defensive and said that "You are being a jerk by refusing my help for your wife daughter".....that's when my wife yelled "YOU HAVE TO BE KIDDING ME" and went upstairs. The next few hours were very uncomfortable as I was loudly counting down how many minutes were left until I was tossing everything they owned into the front yard. They left with 5 minutes to spare.....got in the car and drove away.
I messed up and thought I could trust family to not be that way. Major stress event and I have not had much to do with my Aunt and that side of the family since. My wife had a very negative attitude for next two days as we figured out how to settle into our own schedule/new life change without "help".