I dont think it's a self esteem issue for all. So I this one women was intrested in me awhile ago. She was amazing. She was a redhead, was in her final years of college, did four year in the USAF, knew how to fight, cook, shoot, was a home owner and was financial secure.

Me on the other hand was in debt, a high school dropout, working at a dead end job 10+ years, and was in my first three months of living on my own at 26, BUT Was finally escaping mental captivity from my old cult. So then and now I am/ was happy with who I am. I had no self esteem issues and an optimistic about my future despite being a decade being my fellow generation, work, education and financial wise.

You're too good for me meant that there's nothing as an under educated adult that I can really offer you besides my time, affection, love and support.( and virginity if that's was her thing ;p) I saw it as more of an transaction that a self esteem thing. How much happiness can I really add to that relationships? What how can I improve her life when I'm just starting mine? Sure money and success arent everything but they sure help! Im confident and optimistic about my future so I told her to check back I ten years when I'm at where shes at now.

Thinking back now I think I should of said, hey you could get front row seats from seeing someone go from completely sheltered, no life experience,virgin no social interaction besides family, never knew any music besides Christian melodies, only seen about 15 movies in my life, uneducated adult, to a normal healthy,functioning, contributing adult. Maybe this would of a site to see for someone besides myself?? How many people can offer that? :smug face: you get to help me explore this new open world and see me go from zero to hero right in front of you and share in my success.

She was nice about it though, and I believe shes now married to another nerdy looking dude. Who also has glasses, a beard, and is short just like me. Hmm maybe I shouldn't have passed her up lol. Oh well, live and learn :)