I took care of my 76 year old grandma mon- Friday from 6am-6pm for about 3 months. I love my grandma so much and we have a great relationship. For those 3 months however she was a completely different person. I couldn’t mentally handle it she was so fucking abusive and mean. She’s naturally the most compassionate sweetest person ever. Caregiving is fucking hard and I’m not saying he was right or what he did wasn’t absolutely disgusting or anything like that whatsoever but I think it’s fucked up to not make plans for your care beyond just “oh the kids will cover it” because I had bills to pay and my grandpa paid me $250 a week which only barely covered my bills. That was it. So I was working part time on the weekends on top of the 60 hours + that I worked during the week. And you think I could sit there for some time and “relax” but no it’s a constant battle to get her to take meds throughout the day and by the time I make her meals and help her to the restroom and bathe her or get her settled or grab her something or call the doctors or make an appointment or anything. It’s like watching a toddler there is no rest. It’s a hard job and getting paid next to nothing or a lot of times nothing is really hard when you have to also make a living and pay bills. Resentment grows fast and hard. Especially when it’s a parent or grandparent because anytime they’re mean you take it super personal.