Mostly men, yep, and a few women as well. There will always be women who take the side of any man, but I expected it. I guess the standards are low enough that if a guy has one thing in common with them, he's their buddy.

Fucking right! It's all in the phrasing! Like ah, such a good feminist who happens to cling to the language used in the manospheres. Not so woke after all.

It tends to be common to find actual decent feminist men in spaces where there's a need to reconstruct the ways we're raised to think and behave. Unfortunately they are niche groups. Those are where I hang out, though. As for regular spaces that are just about 1 interest, oh it's hardly going to happen. They'll think they are pro-women when they listen to music about how hard it is to deal with women (replacing "women" with some derogatory slur, usually.)

It has to come from a place outside of the self's gratification. Like how Veganism is for animals, but finding people who say they do it for a different cause are the ones who give up if they think it's inconvenient. Feminism is the same way, it's about making sure basic cares and equity are available, not about feeling like a victim to change.