Thanks for this perspective. I have had conversations about this. I don't want to get too specific in case any involved parties also cruise this sub, but at pre-pandemic she was not happy with their relationship, then she developed some health concerns that required constant care and due to COVID he was the only one who could be there for her consistently. I have talked to her and she has more or less said she stayed with him because she felt obligated after that. She has suggested she might leave him after he moves out, but frankly I've heard it before, and have reached a point where I'll believe it when I see it. She knows how I feel about him, and how he feels about me, but he is definitely worse when she's not around, and I don't think she grasps that, although I have explained that to her.

She's very nice, but also very committed to seeing the best in people, which I think has resulted in Roy overstaying his welcome.