NAH

I honestly can’t imagine losing a parent and I would probably have to mourn for more than a few weeks. I completely understand the frustration with this upcoming trip being non-refundable but I do think that expecting him to just power through his grief so soon is a bit inconsiderate. Especially on your parents’ part. I think I would be bothered by my parents for judging him so harshly in such a traumatic time in his life. I personally wouldn’t chalk this up to “just another time he’s not reciprocating,” his father literally just died.

I agree that his dad would probably want you to be happy and travel, but it’s still pretty soon. I would be upset if someone told me “it’s already been a week,” a week is nothing compared to the grief that comes with losing a parent.

With all of that being said, he expecting you to just quit your job to help him mourn is completely unrealistic and puts a lot of pressure on you. I wouldn’t categorize him as an asshole though because I’m considering that he is probably not in a clear headspace right now.

Is there a compromise that can be made? Maybe you spend the first week of your trip alone with your parents and have him meet you guys once he’s had more time to mourn?

If not, it just kinda sounds like you both have different expectations and aren’t completely considerate of each other all of the time. I don’t think you’d be the asshole for breaking up.