WIBTA if I reject a guy because he's "demisexual"?

I would say you should give it some time to get to know him more, but this would be a small turn off for me as well. I think personally knowing that my partner is just as attracted to men physically as I am is kind of something I want in a romantic/long term partner. If he’s having sex with men he has to be attracted to them physically. He’s either downplaying his physical attraction to men for some reason (some internalized homophobia?) or he really doesn’t feel a physical attraction to men on that level, and that means he doesn’t find parts of me attractive/engaging as much as I would find parts of him to be.

I think there’s this idea people who identify like this that they are attracted to people based on their personality and who they are as a person. I think we are all in a sense attracted to people’s personalities and who they are as a person (and yes even in a sexual way), but I think to engage in (meaningful, at least decent) sex you kind of have to be attracted to at least some physical attributes.

I looked it up, and apparently demisexuals have to establish a connection before they are sexually attracted to someone. To me, it seems like he’s bi/pan (which ever he wants to use) and feels a stronger attraction after forming an emotional connection. But that doesn’t take away that he already has some physical attraction to someone when he first meets them.

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