WIBTA if I tell my girlfriend her penis jokes are immature and just plain stupid?

Ahh yes, the dreaded "confidence" issues.

I feel like the reason sometimes guys have issues communicating in relationships is that we are socially conditioned to always appear cool and competent, and we have this stuff about confidence drilled into our heads so much that we worry not automatically knowing what to do in every situation will seem unattractive.

It shouldn't be that hard to bring this up in a way that doesn't make you appear "butthurt" or otherwise unpleasant:

"GF, you've made these kinds of comments a lot and it makes me wonder what you're expecting when we finally do get around to having sex. I understand you might just be joking, but a lot of your expectations seem pretty off-base and it makes me feel uncomfortable, and also like there's some ideal you're expecting me to live up to."

There you go. You're being assertive and direct, but not aggressive.

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