wierd situation with my new friendship

For a man and being your boss, it’s odd to me. He sounds like a high school girl excited about a sleepover. I find it presumptuous of him to tell you that you are going to be “friend” I dont know what his true agenda is with you, but I would be very cautious. He is married? Divorced? What’s his deal? I see red flags, I think you do too. Trust your instinct.

Im not a big fan of mixing personal life with business anyways. Most healthy people will agree.

Those vampires type will test your boundaries, see if you say yes right away or share personal things about yourself. They can be very sneaky about it too.

I grew up in an abusive home and used to not have good boundaries but I do now baby. Just because someone ask, doesn’t mean you have to say yes or answer a question right away. Always give yourself time to assess any situations invitation and such especially from people you dont know.

My go to sentences is “ Thank you for thinking of me but this isn’t going to work for me at this time.” or “I prefer not to discuss this subject right now.”

Or, if I couldn’t make it at some event for example and someone asked why I wasn’t there, but I don’t want to tell them why, I say. “I was indisposed that day or an important matter came up I had to take care of” No apology I try to avoid saying Im sorry mindlessly or “explain myself ”like I use to do. Bottom line trust your guts.
He sounds nightmarish for a narc abused survivor.

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