This was the same when I discovered my wife's affairs, too. (Yup, she had several of them.) Unfortunately.. I didn't discover my "son" was not actually my biological son until 5 years after the fact... so I am stuck raising him as my own. (I do love him, though.) I divorced her, and she cried and pleaded and begged me to take her back for over a year. No way. Not a chance. It was, even with all the evidence of how deceitful and duplicitous she was, the most difficult thing I've ever done. Stick to your guns. Don't take her back. Don't talk to her. Delete her from facebook. Block her number (so you don't have to listen to her voicemail), and deal ONLY through your lawyer. It gets easier over time, and eventually... life goes on. I'm glad there are no kids involved, as that makes it so much easier to walk away from her. After a while... when you're ready (after you've been able to to talk to someone and work things out and let out some steam)... try joining something like tinder or an online dating app, and then explore the dating world a bit. It is a good way to rebuild confidence in yourself and see that you are a decent catch. Be careful not to get yourself hooked and fall for the first girl who comes along. It's tempting. Say no until you are absolutely ready. And lastly.. make a list of "must haves" and "must not haves". And then compare every girl you are seriously interested in having a relationship to that list. Do the lists now while a lot of this stuff is fresh. Good luck.

Do you pay child support? If you do, how do you feel about it? Ever considered leaving the country?