Wife got drunk and had a meltdown in an Uber. She's been silent for 48 hours. Should I blink first?

I had a very similar situation go down a few months ago. I’ll spare you the details, but it also involved an otherwise “perfect” woman acting out of character under the influence of alcohol. I made some mistakes handling it, but hopefully you can learn from them.

The best thing I did was give her radio silence. This gives her time to think about what she did and feel guilt—because she should. And honestly, if she doesn’t, you’re dodging a bullet.

On the other hand, do not become confrontational if and when she talks to you again. You have every right to be mad about this—but be mad at the situation (not her). And at the end of the day, it’s just a situation for now. A situation that’s over. If she apologizes, accept it if it seems genuine. And maybe discuss ways to work on it in the future. I made the mistake of questioning her thoughts/intentions when she apologized. I actually just wanted her to fight for me, but I realize this is very childish and immature. She didn’t take it well, and it ended up being the nail in the coffin for us.

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