Yes. I'm being vague and not telling you my life story in gory detail. I would hate for my husband to find this and feel emasculated. That would be counter productive, don't you think? I believe after reading everyone's comments that what has happened here is I picked up a beta not realizing it. He put on a good alpha show at the beginning. I believed it. Then as time went on and he had nothing to complain about, he slowly reverted back to beta. I haven't changed what I do on a day to day basis or the way I treat him. I am a giving person by nature, and I had a scary abusive relationship before. When I got out of that relationship I sought out strong male figures because when I was with them I felt safe. I felt if I kept one happy and had him care for me I wouldn't have to worry about people who would actually hurt me like the last guy. I dated one or two alphas then. The last relationship I was in was with a very aggressive and demanding, but kind, alpha. That alpha left me, but I had already gotten accustomed to a routine that worked for me. I actually enjoy things cooking and sex (shocking! But lets be honest, Sex feels good and food tastes good so why shouldnt I?) The problem apparently is that power vacuum left behind by my last alpha was given to a beta, and now I don't feel as safe as I did before. I don't have any desire to leave him or anything like that, but I came to the terrifying realization the other day (again sorry no details) that he wanted me to be alpha. That's a lot of pressure. That's the compkete opposite of the safety I was trying to promise myself by dating alphas. So here I am, trying to see what I can do, without actually taking the reigns. Sorry if I threatened your man space. That was never my intention at all.