It's never their fault, even when they are cheaters. Even if you could put it all back together, would you want to? Knowing that she had an affair. She is absolutely in no way justified to have done what she did. It's abuse, and absolute disrespect.

After adultery, ending the relationship in an amicable way can be beneficial, 'taking the high road'. As I come to discover, these people feed off your pain and suffering. To cheat on someone you've had a 10 years relationship with and a child is absolutely inexcusable. Especially without no warning, no heads-up...

I can see the abuse continue with the car, the social media...Facebook ...it's always social media.

You are better than this and she doesn't deserve you. Sell the house, move on, and pick yourself up, because your worth more than this. You can have a relationship with you son, and treat narcissistic sociopath for who they are...nothing to you anymore.