Wife wants a second child and I don’t. She threatened divorce over this.

Do you actually love your wife at all? Are you just postponing the inevitable divorce because you’re dreading the hassle? If not, ask her to give you a couple of years to think about having another child. There’s a chance her desire to have another one will wane. Once my baby was not a baby any more I experienced a pretty strong spate of baby fever as well but it went away. Either way, what kind of birth control are you guys using? Is she using a mirena or something she can’t secretly stop taking?

I know everyone on this sub says marital counseling doesn’t work but I think people with kids should at least give it a go so you can tell your kid you did everything you could to save your marriage. Your wife sounds like she has a hard time being sensitive to your feelings and maybe counseling could help. YOU pick the counselor and my advice is to pick someone a little older and very experienced.

advice so here you go: dial it down, tell her you’ll think about it and see if you feel differently in a couple of years. There’s a really strong chance she will also feel differently. When my baby wasn’t a baby any more i started wanting another then too but once my children became pre-schoolers with activities they were expensive and I was busy and another child was way less tempting.

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