I was in a similar enough boat this time last year with the exception that it wasn’t a long distance, online thing. It was that guy in work who I had nothing to worry about.

When I caught her in the second set of lies I kicked her the fuck out of the house and that’s that. If I didn’t have kids with her I would never speak to her again, but unfortunately I am forced to have some dealings with her, which is by email and/or text only.

Look, even if she promises (again) to end this and give you another go, do you really want to be with someone who you don’t trust? Someone you will feel you may have to monitor to be sure they aren’t breaking your trust again.

Everyone is different, every situation is different, but if it was me I would be taking steps to end things as quickly and cleanly as possible. It will hurt, you will go through hell, but it will give you a chance to move on.