I will never be good enough for any man as a darkskin black women. I'll always be a mistress or sideline h0 [self.okcupid]

"That's not how the rankings work. A 7 is a 7. There's no "i'm a 7 among black chicks, but a 3 when you consider all women" That's just a 3"

Yes, that is how rankings work. There is not equality amongst races. A 7 for a black girl is about a 4 or 5. Mainly because we don't have lightskin, looser textured hair, light eyes or the good stereotypes to fall back on the same way a white or asian girl does.

A darkskin black girl's 7 is no where near the same as a white girl's 7. For one, we're already invisible.

Two, A white girl who is a 7 can marry a doctor, lawyer or some educated professional and still be considered hotter, more competent and all around a better mate for the average man of any race than a black girl however a black girl who is a solid 7 is better than NO ONE but an uglier black girl. And that is the truth. You ever watch the show the Bachelor and see how the black women are quickly eliminated? yeah, that's what I'm talking about

"And if you think every single dark skinned woman is a 3, you are sorely mistaken. It might be harder for a darker skinned woman to get into the 10s, but every single woman in the world can get to at least a 6 or 7. Makeup, diet, exercise, clothing, you can all at least get to a "most guys would fuck me" level of beauty."

Racism/colorism is the reason why its harder for a darkskin black woman to be a 10. There are black women who are truly 10s but because they're darker they simply get rated lower and I feel that is the case for me. I get rated lower, and treated less than solely because of my skin tone. And I know for a fact that if I were to bleach my skin and get to Beyonce's skin tone I'd be a 9 or 10 to most men.

", but every single woman in the world can get to at least a 6 or 7. Makeup, diet, exercise, clothing, you can all at least get to a "most guys would fuck me" level of beauty."

And what good is that going to be? Maybe a white girl can be fine with that because she has privilege but a black girl? You're already apart of a disadvantage race and then on top of that you're fucking generic? You're like everyone other chick? this makes you fucking invisible. A lightskin 7 is going to get that guy...a white girl who is a 7 is going to get that guy...an hispanic girl who is 7 is going to get that guy..do you see what i'm saying? Being a 7 as a black girl ain't shit. It's fucking ugly. Our average is not good enough. And I don't want to be that.

"And this is what I mean about your personality being shit. You aren't a 10. You'll never be a 10. And you need to be ok with that."

I will never be fine with not being a 10. Average as a black girl is fucking ugly. Our average is not the same as average for a white girl. Average means that all people see is your BLACKNESS and that's it. You're not exceptional so they just see BLACK. Its unacceptable and I will not be content with that shit. And I CAN be a 10. I feel that I should be rated higher than what I am but since I'm black...that's all people fucking see!

"Getting pissy because you aren't the hottest girl in the room is what's holding you back. Not your looks."

Even you acknowledge that I'm not the hottest girl because I'm not lightskin and that fucking pisses me off. How would you feel if you weren't hot because of something as simple as your skin tone? You'd be mad as fuck too. Especially if you notice girls who aren't nearly as attractive as you are getting treated better and having a betteer quality of life. You'd be forever pissed and mad too. Im not going to ever be content with this shit because it means I'm letting the colorstruck/racist people off the hook and i refuse to do that. I want you to feel the guilt, I want you to know that you are responsible for my pain.

" Instead, you are exuding this entitled atmosphere and it is very offputting. A 10 can get away with acting bitchy and entitled (at least until they get old and their loops fade). A 7 can't, and you'll do yourself a huge favor by getting rid of the attitude instead of whining about how unfair the world is."

So you mean to tell me that because I'm not white, I need to play nice and accept being treated like shit? Fuck you. I'm going to continue to challenge this shit because white supremacy is to blame for my inner turmoil.

I'd also like to add for the fucking millionth time. If I put up a dating profile and all the men I attract, are always ones who are looking to fuck a black girl or in relationships, what the FUCK DOES IT HAVE TO DO WITH MY ATTITUDE?? if my attitude was that fucking bad why did they even message me to begin with ? You fail to acknowledge this and that pisses me off

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